Wedding Philosophy

I found an interesting post today at Elizabeth Anne Designs asking what is your wedding philosophy.

This lady talks some sense!  Everything she says I agree with wholeheartedly!

1) Your wedding is about you and your partner.

I think sometimes it's easy to lose sight of this.  The guest list is hard and I know a few people are a little upset because we can't invite them to the whole day, especially distant family members. Has and I have substituted family members we rarely see for friends we see most weeks.  It keeps us happy and we'd much rather have people who are close to us over people we don't really know too well just because they are blood related.  Obviously we don't want to cause upset to anyone but it is our day.

2) Your wedding is about your guests. They should be comfortable. They should have fun. Presumably, those who attend are also those you love the most in the world - show them how much you love them and appreciate the fact that they are joining you on your special day.

On my side I'm the first one to get married and on Has' side he's the last of 3 sons to tie the knot.  This wedding is so much more than just Has and I.  Our families and friends are so excited and are all dying to help out where they can.  As I have set myself huge DIY challenges most of my family and friends have offered to help.  I know it's not an empty promise they want to be involved.  One of the most important things for Has and I is for our guests to have fun and enjoy our wedding as much as we will.

3) Sometimes less is more. We’ve all seen the wedding where everything down to the dance floor and drink koozies was monogrammed. Incorporate your “theme” or your motif in ways that engage, but don’t overwhelm.

This is something I have been worrying about a lot lately.  I want to go with the NY, purple and pearl themes but I don't want it to look "over done".  I think at some point in the New Year I'm going to have to sit down and think about the theme and whether it's getting to be too much.

An Empire State Building wedding cake would be too much right? ...!

4) Sometimes more is more. I love boxed invitations, donut machines, chandeliers, low and lush centerpieces, lounge areas, gospel choirs, and salsa instructors (just not all in the same wedding, see principle #3!). There is nothing wrong with a bit of a decadent splash.

I think paying attention to those little details is important.  Even small things can make a huge difference.  There are a number of things I've been thinking about and should the budget allow we may splash out on a few extras.  In the mean time I'll be putting all my efforts into making chalkboard menus, favour boxes and invitations!

from here

5) I believe that the best weddings are the ones that will stand the test of time.

Of course there will be a few elements to our wedding that we will look back on and laugh "Look at that hair style!" or "What is she wearing!"  but over all I'd love to create a clean image that I will still be in love with 20 years on.

I'm now rethinking my dress...!

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